So it’s absolutely fine and no crime to be single #WomenEmpowerment #BlogchatterA2Z

It’s the time we make a change in the way society perceives the goals of a human being. Though I really value the institution of marriage and understand it is vital to mankind but everything is not meant to turn our right for everyone. So if a person doesn’t wish to marry, or is a divorcee or a widow or widower who likes to lead a single life, let’s accept them the way they are. Companionship need not always come from a spouse. There can be any other beautiful relations that can merrily fill social needs. Let me elaborate on what I wish to say.

Ritu is a well educated Maharashtrian girl who secured a respectable job in a reputed MNC. With her hard work and sincerity, she kept rising up the ladder at a decent pace. In due course of time, her parents fixed her alliance to a suitable match and she happily married their choice. All went well for the first 3 months of their marriage when her husband left for the U.S. for better job prospects. Ritu had conceived by then. Being a professional herself, she supported her husband’s decision wholeheartedly while she continued her job in India. 

Initially, they chatted online day and night but gradually the frequency diminished as her full term approached. By God’s grace, she has soon blessed with a healthy boy and a wave of happiness engulfed the family. Pradyum, her husband, expressed his inability to come because of work pressures which the family especially Ritu accepted very considerately. He even turned down her request to join him there, citing no time and work pressure.

Gradually many years passed and she realized that her husband definitely has been avoiding them for years and is in a relationship with another woman, as confided to her by a common friend. Soon, they applied for divorce. Their divorce is still in court. While financially she is secure, the society keeps pricking her in ways more than one.

She is a nice person who for the sake of her son decided to marry again and found someone interested in her, through a matrimonial site. While their relationship was blooming well, this man made her invest huge sums of money in a home for them. Considering he was securing their future she had agreed. But it turned out that he had looted several other women this way and was behind bars soon.

Not once life had ditched her twice. She has now gained the sensibilities that she can still feel complete with her son without a dad for him. A mature empowered woman does not always need a man in her life to complete her identity. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out for some people but it’s okay, you are perfect without it too. 

We speak often and I always tell her not to have pity on herself, be emotionally independent, don’t keep looking for shoulders for support. She should do it to herself first to prevent people from having pity for her.

 You are absolutely fine the way you are, my girl. You have the power to take care of yourself, your son and your aging parents. So go ahead and embrace the world with a wide smile and open arms.

This is the nineteenth post for my 4th consecutive Global #AtoZChallenge and #BlogchatterA2Z. You can read my earlier post in this Women Empowerment Series here: A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N,O,P,Q,R

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