Wednesday, 19 February 2020

7 Tips for Parenting an Introvert

Parenting itself is I believe the most difficult art or science whatever we choose to call it, with no set rule book despite having the maximum amount of written literature around it. It is undoubtedly to each his own. If there is anything that really works as a thumb rule in parenting, it is a mom’s instinct. But still, it is always worthy to share our experiences and gain some wisdom from other moms. I am blessed to be born in times when we moms don’t shy away from sharing what we have learned the hard way. Every kid is different so the parenting style for each one too has to be unique. Still, it is always comfortable to have a vocal or an extrovert child who can express his anger or happiness or myriad other feelings which the kids profess in words and you can easily act accordingly. But if you are a mom to an introvert the game totally changes. 

Parenting an introvert is a little tricky and a mind game, it requires a lot of patience and planning as well. Sharing in this posts some tips for parenting an introvert. 

Please understand that the introverts don’t lack confidence they are on an average more intelligent and make big in life, they just don’t let their feelings flow out in words that easily😊.

1. Be very patient with introvert kids: Introvert kids do share their hearts with the people they are close to, we just need to be very patient with spending ample amount of time with them to feel comfortable to talk about what’s hidden in the deepest crevices of their heart. Also, when they start speaking try not to interrupt them or direction the talk, if you feel a deep urge to do so, do it only when they are done. In general,  don’t cut them or reply immediately, just let the kids’ words sink in first before reacting or responding.

2. Planning is the key: Along with patience another virtue parents of introverts must practice is sensitivity towards their little precious. Plan small things that give them joy like play dates and aid they open up to their peers. Ensure they play outdoors and attend birthday parties and other family functions. Plan mom’s day out or dad’s day out with them or indulge in their favorite sport with them and share some smiles together. High on a win or weak on a loss, their emotions may just flow out to you along with a few other direct of indirect subtle hints about things you should know about your kid as a parent.

3. Be observant: It is widely believed that actions speak louder than words. Always keep an indirect eye on your introvert kid, sense his discomfort and offer support. Don’t flood him with questions or press the panic button. Stay calm and comfort him and after taking his time he will surely confide in. Give them their space but be aware. Striking a balanced friendship with our tiny tot works wonders too.

4. Take clues: Since your introvert child will never express his likes or dislikes it is important to take clues and respect his opinion which may be different from yours. Sometimes he may be wrong but don’t tell that straight away rather weave it into a story of a boy next door who did a similar thing and how he reaped adverse consequences and leave it there. Your silent child has already absorbed it all.

5. Be involved: All of us, moms, yearn to make our kids independent, however, I feel like Rome was not built in a day this transition too should not happen overnight especially if you have a shy less speaking kid at home. Let him do his work and get involved where you think he is losing track. For some time keep the overall control of things with you and make gaining independence a transient process stretched over a timeline you have set.

6. Take notes: To err is human and as parents, we may go wrong too. Thus maintaining a journal of important points we learned while rearing and grooming our little one definitely comes handy in times when we lose our head and don’t understand how to tackle a super tricky situation. At that time referring to your tips and lessons you have journaled aids you to first attain your calmness and then plan a solution to the problem.

7. Seek help: Sorry for this gender bias,  but a mom is usually the best judge if her kid is simply an introvert or it is something else for which they need help from a psychologist to aid him to untangle the strands of complex emotions he is experiencing. You won’t realize what emotional havoc bullies at school or a bad-tempered teacher can cause to your tender little bud. If your child needs help, don’t shy away from giving it to him. That’s for your as well as his benefit and you will be so happy to eventually see him or her blooming and merry like before.

I hope you can relate to the above... Do share your insights, will so love to read them.

Truly Yours Roma

If you like what I write, you can grab the copies of my four published books here: The Fragrance of True LoveDestiny's Favorite ChildDare to Defy The Destiny and Empowered Women Empower Women

Tuesday, 11 February 2020

Healthy Eating with Tupperware: Event Coverage

Earnestly, I feel moms of this generation have the toughest jobs at hand. While on one hand they are spoilt for choices with so many mind boggling options decking up the fancy shelves, on the other they have a humongous task of filtering what goes in their kids tummy. On a lighter note, don’t you think our moms’ jobs were easier with lesser options and pure and unadulterated food? Phew!

Anyways for us, the mommas of today, awareness is the key. Thus I skip no chance to stay upbeat in upgrading my knowledge on this topic and so I attended a wonderful meet-up on healthy eating by Tupperware in association with Slurrpfarm and Maxhealthcare last week in Gurgaon. It was undoubtedly a very enriching afternoon and I am so glad I made to it against all odds. 

The reason perhaps was my love for this brand, Tupperware which has been a family member for us for over two decades. They talked of food grade plastics eons before people really started digging into the facts. I have always felt so reassured using their products for my little boy, my husband and myself as well as all my storage needs. Initially I bought it from their selling agents and then online but now I am glad to know they have opened 50 retail outlets across the country. 

In this event, I also came to know about their new Black Nonstick Cookware Series that comes with the Eterna nonstick coating, which is the longest-lasting non-stick coating in the market and offers superior non-stick surface for easy cooking and cleaning. The hard-anodized aluminum in the Black Series enables superior heat distribution and ensures even and fast cooking. What else can one ask for.

It was a pleasure witnessing Chef Ayesha Nalla Seth roll out a gorgeous banana oat millet crepe for us on it without a drop of oil ghee or butter. Her tips to cook for our little ones came straight from the heart. The ingredients used were from Slurrpfarm, a venture of two moms, to ensure our kids get nothing short of the best. Slurrp Farm has revived the ancient ‘Supergrains’- ragi, jowar, foxtail millets, and have mastered this art, I have been using them for quite some time and their nut powder and jaggery are my all time favorite to appease my picky eater. The thing I love the most about Slurrp Farm is that they have come out with so many quality and healthy snacking products available for us, to battle the issues caused by junk-eating. 

Another high for me in the event was the insights from dietician Ritika Samaddar of MaxHealthCare. Her talk on the the fundamentals of eating right and staying healthy and fit was truly worth emulating. Though I always checked the labels of the products we consumed, I can now refine my checking with thumb rules like we must not only consume products which are high in protein and fibre but also it must have sugar content less than 5%. I so am glad she broke the myth around bananas for I love eating it in the morn for that energy punch before hitting the gym.

All fun broke out when we were divided into groups to exhibit our culinary skills and make our masterpiece. Joining in my blogger buddies, Jhilmil, Noor and Preetjyot for making a cheesy Spinach dosa on the Tupperware Black Series Nonstick using Slurrpfarm ingredients was truly a super rocking experience post which we headed for the Tupperware Outlet Visit and oh my how gorgeous it looked in its myriad vibrant colours and options. We ended the event here with some candid discussions about the lovely variety available there.

Earnestly the mum in me was super satiated by the experience, I was super stoked to see how our most favorite brands are coming together to innovate and improve to perfection to ensure we eat healthy and make our motherhood a pleasurable experience. The smiles below speak it all πŸ’š. 

Thursday, 30 January 2020

#BookReview: CHAOS: In Romance, Sexuality and Fidelity definitely stands out!

You all know my love for books. The book nerd in me had a perfect start of the decade with being a part of the World Book Fair 2020 here in New Delhi from where I grabbed more books than my entire family could carry for me😊. A book is larger than life for me and so far I had kept my experiences with them mostly to myself but now I intend to write my reviews on the chosen few which I feel you must know about and may love to pick. 

So today I am writing on of the recent non-fiction I have been reading. It is

CHAOS: In Romance, Sexuality, and Fidelity 
by Raksha Bharadia 

Honestly, while picking it up I was in two minds as I didn’t know what to expect from it. Its snippets on the web had caught my attention and I am elated that I did choose it because this indeed turned out to be a very well researched book so full of facts which both amuse you as well as make you ponder. Subtle truth you never knew but are worth knowing straight from the experts.

Synopsis of the book

A close look at love, marriage, sex, individuality and infidelity. Most urban couples today experience some amount of chaos in their interpersonal relationships—whether it be in the struggle to remain sexually exclusive, in keeping the erotic spark alive, trying to balance between the need for intimacy and personal space or in handling the new age demon called boredom!

Long-established patterns of married life are breaking down in a new India where gender equality and individualism have blurred the domestic division of labour and leadership, often resulting in ego clashes between partners.. Technological advancements such as birth control, IVF, paternity tests etc., open up options but bring along accompanying complications. It is the same with the Internet and social media. Old rules of couple relationship--both explicit and implicit--do not fit well anymore; new rules are still not in place.

In such a scenario, this book seeks to understand the little equations that go to make up a long-term relationship, thereby throwing light on the steps that, if not well managed, lead to chaos for both partners.
Some of the questions addressed here are: Why do we feel the need to guard our partner’s sexuality? Why does boredom set in, in most long-term relationships? Why do affairs begin and is it really about sex or love at all? And many more such, that deal with the nitty-gritty of day-to-day sharing of the physical, emotional and sexual space between couples.

By the end of this book, you may just revisit all that you have been taking for granted!

My Take on the Book 

Chaos basically talks about the chaos in the romantic and sexual life of a couple as some years pass by. How the desire vanes as does the surprise element out of too much familiarity. The case studies and real-life instances mentioned there so relatable. It also gives practical solutions to reduce the mental clutter in matters pertaining to the heart to a fair extent. 

Some things I really loved about the book is that it talks about women’s suppressed sexual desires quite vocally and many other taboo subjects without an iota of judgment. A peek into the contradictory history of the same was intriguing and I felt enriched. 

I stopped at relevant intervals and discussed some points with my man too and that made the reading quite interesting for me. There were some points I didn’t agree to though but each one of us is allowed to have his or her opinion right or maybe I found the facts too hard to digestπŸ˜‰. Anyways most of the time, I was nodding my head in agreement or was wide-eyed to learn something new and really interesting. The book also refutes the societal laws brutally. 

Full marks to the author for steering clear of any biases in the book whatsoever. She has expressed the pure human emotions without glorifying or demonizing a particular choice. 

All in all, I found this book really different, thought-provoking and helpful too. It definitely is worth a read and is a different experience altogether. This is my second book after Paulo Coelho’s Hippie this year and I am absolutely delighted to give this one a read. 

My Rating of the book 


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Thank you so much, Raksha for sending over a copy for an earnest review.

Truly Yours Roma

If you like what I write, you can grab the copies of my four published ebooks here: The Fragrance of True LoveDestiny's Favorite ChildDare to Defy The Destiny and Empowered Women Empower Women

Sunday, 26 January 2020

#MovieReview : #Panga beautifully inspires every mom to make her comeback

My starting statement for the review of this movie shall be every mom, every dad and every kid of today’s generation must watch this flick for the wonderful message it spreads. It is undoubtedly the warmest and meaningful movie I had seen in recent times and have to write about it to all of you. How I wish more and more movies on this subject were made and the message was sent deeper and deeper. Yes, 

‘No dreams must ever be crushed or sacrificed on the name of motherhood’

and I am not saying this for the heck of saying this but because I stand for this cause too. Have been there, know the pain and the feeling of seeing your intellect and experience rot over time and frustrate you. Why not rather do what gives you the greatest joy and the rest will all fall in place.

Since this movie is on women empowerment and then on sports both I and the spouse were keen to watch it at the earliest and I am so glad I did. I first came to know about it from #TheKapilSharmaShow and was immediately intrigued by the caste and the director and I have to say Ashwiny Iyer Tiwari has done a beautiful job with Jaya Nigam played by Kangana Ranaut, her husband Prashant player by Jassie Gill, her son Aadi played by Yagna Bhasin, her mom played by Neena Gupta and her best friend played By Richa Chadha.

The story is about Jaya who was on top of her game as the captain of the Indian Kabaddi Team when she embraced maternity and as her son had immunity issues she had to abandon her sport and do a ticket collector job in Railways. When her son turns seven and randomly misbehaves with his mom his dad intervenes and tells him about what she was. The son then plays a catalyst for Jaya to reclaim her way to the glory which in no way was an easy job both on the personal and professional front. 

But her husband’s unparalleled support makes her embrace the goal which once seemed impossible. The world indeed needs many many more supportive and understanding husbands like Prashant who listens, understands and then accepts her wife’s desire. He is an epitome of true love in the film. 

Why haven’t we ever heard of a dad sacrificing his career for the kids, is a question which lingers in my brain forever, why it always has to be the mom? 

If you have an answer do illuminate my knowledge. 

I so love the adorable family shown in the film. Yagna is impeccable as the kid. I could relate to each scene and I am sure many of you will find striking resemblances from your life in it like I did. The strength of the movie is this nitty-gritty and moments of love and friendly nagging of Jaya with her partner, with her mom and with her friends. I can describe them here but I would love you to watch and smile at them and not play a spoilsport.

The story, in general, doesn’t have negative characters barring the new Indian captain and the movie is about the protagonist taking panga with life and her dreams at an age of thirty-two when her co-players ask her to say buddhi in place of kabaddi and this undoubtedly is one of Kangana’s Best Performances yet again. She has actually owned the character and the film. Every single artist of the movie has done their job to perfection be it, Neena Gupta, as relatable mom or Richa as her kabaddi bestie. My only complaint if I had to pick one is the climax of the movie, as an audience, I was left wanting to see the ace player Jaya to show some extraordinary play before she emerged the champion again. Those scenes needed a keen and tight weave to have our hearts in our mouth as we had waited for them in the whole movie. The fact that the selectors pick Jaya in the national squad again to gain media attention as the comeback of a mom, depicts the shallowness of the thoughts of our society. 

You will find many such messages hidden in the film here and there aptly and above all I really hold this movie high because it inspires each mom who has abandoned a flourishing career to make the comeback and reclaim her lost glory or even start afresh if she hasn’t yet. This is the reason I say every mom must take a similar panga in life. We must give this one chance to ourselves and carve our own identity and that shall be our real tribute to motherhood, not our sacrifice.

I rate PANGA πŸŒŸπŸŒŸπŸŒŸπŸŒŸ and term it a must-watch for all πŸ˜Š

Truly Yours Roma

Wednesday, 22 January 2020

5 Unique Ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day

valentine's Day celebration ways

Undoubtedly with Valentine’s Day approaching, love is in the air and I totally believe we must grab as many chances as possible,  to celebrate love in our lives and I insist with all our loved ones. Honestly, Valentine’s Day is a festival in our home and has always been extra special for us no matter how the world chooses to judge it. I celebrate it with the love of my life cum my husband cum my bestie of over two decades (all of them are the same guy) and my little waala valentine, my sonny boy, making time for both individually as well together for all three of us..trying to make it unique in my own small way each year and today am sharing with you some cool ideas hoping they spice up your celebrations of love too without drilling a hole in your pocket with expensive gifts.

1. Heart theme deco and letters

Buy some pretty flowers like jasmine or any other flower of your choice and make heart-shaped flower rangolis with them in chosen nooks and corners of your home(remember not to overdo them, they must express your pure love). This little surprise will light up the day of your love and bring the most cherished smile on his face. Also cut colored paper sheets in heart shape and leave out of the box love notes or doodles, with a touch of humor or romance or simply tender love, in them,  hidden at unexpected places like the pocket of his trouser or the pencil case of your kid.

2. Scented candlelight date at midnight

Do up a very special place in your home (an attic or study where you won’t be disturbed) with some exotic scented candles and some wine or whatever you both love and a tiny cake. Hint your partner to meet you at 12 all dressed up. Slip into his favorite dress and spend some wonderful we time amidst the romantic candlelight and mesmerizing perfumes at the stroke of midnight. Trust me these precious moments will truly ignite the passion which the moms and dads in us miss. Use the same table to enjoy a special lunch with your kid in the afternoon after he or she is back from school and express your love with their favorite food for the cute little angels of our life. 

3. Bake your heart in heart-shaped cupcakes

If you enjoy baking, try making some yum cupcakes with heart-shaped icing in multiple hues and put in hubby’s and kid’s lunch boxes as a surprise. You can also get it baked from a home baker nearby. Another idea could be writing some adorable messages on the cupcakes itself. I once wrote a valentine poem for my man on the heart-shaped cake on this day a few years back and it read and tasted so delicious πŸ˜Š

4. A cozy and secluded movie date

When you are thinking of unique gifting options thorough research often helps. In my quest for the same, I landed on a super rocking movie date venue known as Director’s Cut. It was pricey at weekends but the weekdays and the morning shows were pocket friendly options that too with the least crowd. I did an advance booking much earlier and it turned out to be a worthwhile experience. Cozily enjoying the movie in the blanket with your love and the best dark chocolate on earth was truly an enchanting experience. Something on these lines can always be worked out.

5. A trip to the mountains or a lush green place

I and my husband met in Pantnagar and our love bloomed in Nainital. We have a memory associated with almost every place there. Thus given a chance on special days like this, we love to drive to the mountains there and live each moment again with a smile. The face of our love, our little sunshine enjoys the trip too as we narrate to him tiny anecdotes from mom dad’s life. The idea is you don’t need an exotic dinner date or a expensive gift to celebrate this special day just go to a serene place nearby you love and hold each other’s hand. Talk, smile, share leaving behind all worries. No matter how cliched this sounds, every human being needs that touch, those priceless smiles and an occasional expression of true love seen in the eyes of our partner. Don’t you agree? Watching a sunrise or a sunset together marveling at Mother Nature and professing your love will be as eternal as them comes as the most soothing reminder to your better half. 

Well, In my opinion, we must celebrate love each day and thus every day is Valentine’s Day. You may use any of the above ideas to beat monotonous everyday life any day why wait for 14th February. These are some of the ways in which the diehard romantic in me keeps the flame burning, I hope you find them worthy. Do write to me if you could use any of these in your celebrations and will love to feature you πŸ˜Š.
Truly Yours Roma

If you like what I write, you can grab the copies of my four published ebooks here: The Fragrance of True LoveDestiny's Favorite ChildDare to Defy The Destiny and Empowered Women Empower Women

Thursday, 16 January 2020

Salt Therapy Benefits for kids and Adults Health

My biggest fear when we came to know that we have to shift to Delhi was Delhi’s mammoth pollution. Thus, despite the opportunity being really worthy I tried to resist it as much as I could for I knew the ill effects of hazardous AQI on our respiratory health particularly. 

Nevertheless, we did shift and that too in peak pollution and winter months. I took crazy precautions and was mostly indoors with air purifiers yet had cough, cold and fever repeatedly for the first two months. Luckily I learned about an alternate therapy which can be extremely useful in giving us a respite from most of the simple and chronic respiratory disorders without any side effects and can work wonders even for our skin and aid us destress and even relieve our fatigue and anxiety.

 This therapy is known as Salt Therapy of Halotherapy and in this article, I intend to create awareness about this simple technique so that all of us can reap its advantage. I wonder why it has been an underdog so far because most of my friends and acquaintances who expressed a deep desire to know about this after reading about my experience on Instagram, admitted they had no idea about it. 

Well, Salt Therapy is an age-old therapy founded accidentally by a practicing doctor in Poland in 1843 where workers in underground salt mines suffered fewer respiratory sicknesses.

By chiseling and grinding the salt, the miners produced micro-sized particles of salt that were dispersed into the air of the mine and then inhaled which healed them. 

What is salt therapy? 

Salt therapy also known as halotherapy is a holistic, drug-free, non-invasive, natural therapy for relieving symptoms caused by congestion, inflammation, and allergies of respiratory system and skin. In halotherapy, micronized dry salt is inhaled in a chamber that mimics a salt cave environment. It promotes better breathing, healthier skin, sounder sleep, improved physical fitness, and endurance and wellness. 

Why is it beneficial?

The benefits stem from the fact that salt is antibacterial, antiinflammatory, it loosens excessive mucus and speeds up mucociliary transport, it removes pathogen agents (airborne pollen) and Reduces IgE level (immune system oversensitivity). 

Where is it given? 

Salt therapy is usually given in salt caves, salt rooms( for lungs) or salt beds (for better exposure of skin) which have relaxing massage chairs for adults and play rooms for kids. You can choose to do your favorite relaxing activity too inside. 

There the salt is grounded into tiny microparticles by special devices knows as halogenerators and then dispersed into the salt rooms or beds. While relaxing in one of these, we deep breath and inhale the salt-enriched air deep down into the lungs, for unparalleled healing benefits. 

The science behind Halo Therapy

The salt thus inhaled widens our airways and loosens the mucus, which begins to clear quickly, and inflammation is reduced, which makes more room in the airways for us to breathe and thus we start feeling better in just 15-25 minutes. Symptoms subside, sometimes for up to 12 months. The non-inhaled particles landing on the skin help to balance pH and induce the reparative and regenerative processes in the skin, increasing rigidity and stimulating our cell growth and microcirculation. Isn’t that super amazing and easy peasy? 

Suitable for which age group? 

This therapy is equally suitable for all age groups and has no side effects as the microparticles of common salt are getting in our respiratory system and not the digestive system. 

Whether it is babies, children or adults, salt therapy can help soothe a lot of skin, respiratory and lifestyle conditions for all. 

Why is it so important?

In today’s times of extreme pollution with our little ones often having repeated episodes of bitter cough and wheezing this therapy can prove vital and indispensable and saves us from resorting to antibiotics or steroids.

You will be amazed to know that salt therapy has proven benefits in the case of Asthma, COPD, Fibrosis, Sinus, Cold & Flu, Eczema, Psoriasis, Hay Fever, Stress, Anxiety, and Fatigue. However this does mean you skip your medication while taking it until the symptoms improve.

Salt therapy caves, spas and clinics are available now in many major cities in India and we can do it to a certain effective extent in our homes too. 

A Word of caution

Certain reports suggest inhaling large amount of salts can cause hypertension that is why the timings of this therapy are limited. It is advisable to get a health checkup done before taking this therapy.

How can we do Salt Therapy at home?  

For it we need to purchase an ultrasonic desalinizer or the salt machine which transforms the salt into minuscule particles, making them unobtrusive when breathing them in. The salt used in salt therapy should be natural rock salt to achieve the best results.

I first experienced a salt cave some years back in Europe and am so relieved finally to rediscover them in Delhi through Tata Salt team who are running an initiative around it. Its benefits are something I really wished all fo you to know and thus have tried to include all the basic information required about the same, in simplest terms here.

Disclaimer: The purpose of this post is to give you a brief idea about this therapy. Kindly consult your medical practioner before taking it.

Truly Yours Roma

If you like what I write, you can grab the copies of my four published books here: The Fragrance of True LoveDestiny's Favorite ChildDare to Defy The Destiny and Empowered Women Empower Women