Friday, 19 April 2019

Raise your daughters like fierce and passionate tigresses #WomenEmpowerment #BlogchatterA2Z

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Yogita di was a single parent. Such a smiling and cheerful personality, she can even make a rock smile and chuckle over her impromptu jokes. We all were fans of her incomparable sense of humor. No one can even imagine the amount of pain she had kept concealed in the deepest corners of her heart (until we lost her one day suddenly)...Her fourteen-year-old princess Happy is equally chirpy. She has been brought up so beautifully that never once did we feel that she missed her father’s presence in her life. 

For the last 22 years, Yogita di had been in a stable job with a MNC and was by then quite handsomely paid but she had always saved a majority of her income to secure her daughter’s future. She has also bought a flat in her name and has invested enough for her higher studies. After her husband had ditched her to marry her best friend, she had found it really difficult to trust anyone. Though she had projected herself as a strong independent woman, truth be told, it has taken her a while to overcome her grief of losing her man. Theirs was a love marriage after several years of courtship and betrayal was the last thing she expected from the man she has loved beyond eternity.

I had met her at so many occasions because of a common friend and had always loved her warmth until on the Holi Day last year, I came to know that early morn 6a.m. she had silently passed away. She was all of fourth four and was battling fever from last few days but none of us had thought in our dreams that we would lose her like this too soon. It was heart-wrenching for all of us but for her 14 years old this was the biggest shock of her life. The worst fear that Yogita di’s friends faced were then how will they control the pain of the teeny princess. But we were wrong.

Yogita di had raised a tigress. The young girl absorbed all her pain and lighted her mom’s pyre, bearing it all like a firm unshakable rock. There were eyebrows raised, questions asked in hushed murmurs, but she replied to none. Her mother had taught her how to remain unfazed in the most adverse circumstances in life and Happy wished to withhold her admirable upbringing to the best of her abilities.

The young girl exhibited unparalleled strength of character when she appeared for her 9th-grade exams within a few days of losing her mom, staying in the same flat where she lost her forever. Memories of kissing her mom goodbye early morn for tuition when she saw her alive for the last time, still haunts her but she stays firm. Her father had now come to stay with her and takes good care of her but she is not sure if she can ever forgive him. She is fiercely independent and very focussed towards her goals in life...

I am a very strong advocate of women’s rights and people call me with different names from being a feminist to what not but I don’t care. What I care is for standing behind as many women as possible to support them in words and in deeds. However, there is a category of women I really despise. They are those who fall for a married man(and vice versa) knowingly or unknowingly. I just can't take this love is blind shit from them. Nothing on the earth qualifies them to ruin a family. Sorry for deviating from the topic but we would not have lost our Yogita di at such a young age, to so much mental agony, had her husband and best friend not ditched her. However, I am very proud of the way she has raised her daughter as an empowered tigress.





This is the seventeenth post for my 4th consecutive Global #AtoZChallenge and #BlogchatterA2Z. You can read my earlier post in this Women Empowerment Series here: ABCDEFGHIJKLMN,O,P,Q

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Thursday, 18 April 2019

Quintessential desire to set things right no matter how uncomfortable the times are #WomenEmpowerment #BlogchatterA2Z

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My heart warms writing about Anisha(name changed) who is a beautiful example of a buddy parent. I don’t know why I have this extraordinary love for Gujjus and I have many of them on my forever friends list. Anisha definitely is one of them. You enter her home and the love and care in the air rub on you instantaneously.
She is a makeup artist and runs a makeup studio in one room of her flat. She has a doting husband who is in the construction business. Together they run the household. They have two lovely children Kritika and Shreyas. Anisha and her husband are not too well educated but they are definitely the best set of parents anyone would ever crave for especially Anisha, who had so often approached me to decide the best avenues for her kids’ future. For she says she wants her kids to do the best and though she understands their feelings and desires, she is perhaps not the right person to guide them. She stands as a firm rock behind her kids and can move mountains to get them nothing short of the best.

I groomed her 20-year-old, a couple of years back. That is the age kids face the biggest dilemmas of their life and it becomes vital to aid them to identify the right direction for them. Kritika undoubtedly is a bright girl and it is evident that her extreme confidence stems from her mom’s unconditional love and faith in her. I remember that day when she had been nagged by a relative for not having her goals clear and she sat next to me with tears welled up in her eyes but refusing to drop. How I wish that relative would have rather helped the little girl identify her dreams. 

Anyways she took it as a challenge and we worked really hard to set everything correct. Post completing her graduation, she cracked three out of four organizations including Wipro and Axis Bank and is all on her own, at twenty-two today. She has also enrolled in post graduation and is pursuing higher studies in banking. Such an example of a mom-daughter duo, both beautiful human beings, just needing a push in the right direction. 

The best thing about Anisha is that she has never differentiated between her boy and girl on the basis of their gender nor has her husband had. She also is well aware of her children’s strengths and weaknesses and wanted them to weave a career in the profession of their choice. Her son had just completed her intermediate and wants to join hotel management and she is again standing by his dreams and only yesterday we had a long chat about it. Shreyas also now has his elder sister to guide him.

She herself is a self-made woman. When they lost their home in Mumbai to illegal construction embroglio of a builder, she along with her two little children and husband came to Pune and started a small parlor from her rented home which gave her money to cater to the immediate needs of her family as well as look after her kids. With time her work grew and so does her earnings and the earnings of her husband. She has to take up a beautician’s work because she was not much educated, as a lot of importance was not given to education in her traditional business family. That’s the reason she wanted her children to do higher studies that too in the area of their passion so that they can fight all odds of life appropriately with the power of education and she has fairly succeeded. 

Today when I look at her she runs a makeup studio and trains young women to stand on their own feet. Her work gratifies her and so does the fact that she has made her children fulfill their dreams. They have eventually bought a house for themselves where the hardworking couple wishes to spend their lives peacefully. Her quintessential desire to set things right no matter how uncomfortable the times are has eventually made her reach her goals in life. She is such an example to everyone!





This is the sixteenth post for my 4th consecutive Global #AtoZChallenge and #BlogchatterA2Z. You can read my earlier post in this Women Empowerment Series here: ABCDEFGHIJKLMN,O,P

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Wednesday, 17 April 2019

Purpose of your life should be clearly known to you #WomenEmpowerment #BlogchatterA2Z

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I first spoke to Itra when we pinged me on social media about her penchant for my articles, around four years ago. Soon we got talking and found out much to our surprise that she lives in the adjacent flat of my building on the same floor. Surprisingly, we have never met as I had just shifted there and she rarely came out of her house and if she did she came out in a burka.

No points for guessing, we soon became very close friends. We bonded over everything, over tea, over the super yum biryani and kebabs. she prepared and over a lot of deep meaningful discussions on varied topics. She hails from Hyderabad and I so loved her dialect and culinary skills apart from her friendly personality.

Itra is a God fearing person who taught me a lot of values, like how patience saves relationships. She is a smart woman who says one must handle tricky situations with wit and smile because it has to anyway pass too. For some years she had done a job in U.S. but now  is busy rearing her twin sonny and daughter. 

However, what wasn’t right in my eyes was that she did not allow her children to engage in dance and drama or let them out in festivals like Diwali and Holi. With due respect to her religion, I felt she wasn’t doing it right for her children. So if her kids came to my kid’s birthday party they will refrain from dancing and sit in a corner which broke my heart. While both she and her children were so well read as they did not have a T.V. or any other source of entertainment other than books in their home, still their was a major miss. Apart from this, she was very nice, very calm and always very motivating to me.

I felt a responsibility to speak to her on this, even if it could have bitter consequences because I knew she is very very rigid with her thoughts but as a friend and a well wisher, I wanted to. I just waited for the right time to strike the iron when it would be real hot, to mould it my way. One day as we were busy building our fun castles and were lost in a deep discussion, I began telling her how the onus of raising empowered kids lies on our shoulder and we ourselves have to be empowered to lead them by example. I gave examples and told her how her kids are really talented and need better exposure to come out with flying colors and do good in life. The intelligent woman tried to sell me a lot of points which I defeated with logic and love. Religion makes us a better person and helps us evolve with coming times not holds us back. It is mostly our own inhibitions we tried to conceal beyond the so called names.

It took her a while to let the thought sink in and she did summon up the courage to speak up one day. She agreed she needed to change. She felt liberated and decided to walk out of her comfort zone. Highly educated women she took up teaching in her children’s school. Seeing their mom rise and shine the children too bloomed into beautiful flowers and have really shaped up as beautiful extroverts today. The son writes beautifully and the daughter is a beautiful painter. Both of them remain avid readers and are shining stars of the city in lawn tennis.

How just liberation in a mom’s views brought about the renaissance in the family is the message I want to give in this post. The choice undoubtedly lie on us, so get up my dear, be the shining guiding light for your family and for your society. You have it in you!



This is the sixteenth post for my 4th consecutive Global #AtoZChallenge and #BlogchatterA2Z. You can read my earlier post in this Women Empowerment Series here: ABCDEFGHIJKLMN,O

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Tuesday, 16 April 2019

One who takes care of her parents until the last should be given the real right to carry their names forward #WomenEmpowerment #BlogchatterA2Z

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Akshita (name changed) was the fourth and youngest in four siblings and had a cheerful childhood somewhere in a small town of India. Her parents and her two sisters and an elder brother all showered buckets of love on her unconditionally and she undoubtedly was the pampered one. Akshita exhibited great resilience from a very young age. She loved being independent and remained very serious and devoted to her education. She had great respect and love for her parents who have done their best for all their four kids and it was her only wish to give them the best in the world. While her elder two sisters married and choose to be homemakers that was not her cup of tea. She was extremely motivated by her brother who was a doctor,  to pursue the profession of her dreams. 

Soon she completed her masters and accepted assistant professorship in an engineering college in Greater Noida where her brother practiced and lived with his wife and daughter. It was time for them to look for a suitable match for her. when the most worst thing in their lives happened. Something that tore them apart and shattered the hearts of the complete family forever. Over a kin loosing his life to a chronic health condition, some members of a local community, murdered her brother brutally. Words fail me sum up what hell broke on them. He was the best son, best brother, best husband and best dad of this world. His untimely demise paralyzed all of them. Their dad’s shoulders stopped and soon he realized going to the police station every day will not aid him anyway to bring the culprits behind bar.

In all this, Akshita decided to rise above her unbearable agony and take care of her old parents who have suddenly grown so weak after they lost their son so painfully. She decided, come what may she will always take care of them and she did everything she could to make them smile. They say time is the best healer, in due course of time, she got married to Rohan who accepted her parents like his own. 

Destiny loved to test her resilience over and over again. She was again heart broken when her first pregnancy got terminated but you can never see an emotion on her face. They shifted base for her husband’s new job and she yearned to find a good job there too in which she succeeded. They were soon blessed with a baby boy and to be with her child she decided to take a couple of years off. Her parents continued to live with her. Life again took a turn when her husband was diagnosed with depression and he lost his job. With a toddler under her toe, this shook Akshita once again. It was really tough both emotionally and financially but my girl decided to hold on.

She left the kid with her parents and set out job hunting and kept accepting all offers until she landed on a good one. She even took tuition in the evening, to do whatever it takes for survival. The bills of her husband’s  and her ailing parents’ treatment drained all their savings. But she did not give up. Even God helps those who help themselves. Soon her husband recovered and got a good job. She too got settled in a job which satiated her. Finally they had time for their little one too. 

Akshita has lived up to all the promises she has made to life. Like she had promised herself, she has taken great care of her parents, she did all she could to save her father whom she lost to old age last year. Her mom still lives with them and her heart swells with pride seeing her daughter donning multiple hats to perfection. She undoubtedly is a great teacher, wife and mom too. She truly is a girl of great resilience and will power and I felt her story definitely deserves to be spoken out. Also, I feel the kid who takes care of the ageing parents until the last, should be given the real right to carry their names forward and not the son or sons by default.



This is my fifteenth post for my 4th consecutive Global #AtoZChallenge and #BlogchatterA2Z. You can read my earlier post in this Women Empowerment Series here: ABCDEFGHIJKLM, N

Truly Yours Roma

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Monday, 15 April 2019

Never keep things buried in your heart, be your own voice #WomenEmpowerment #BlogchatterA2Z

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Depression is something which has embezzled me like nothing else has ever done. I have seen the strongest ones falling prey to it and at a time when one could expect it the least. Well, I am not a doctor but I know it is painful not only for the person who bears it but also for the family members who see her/him getting caught in the vicious trap.

Radha is one of my most dearest childhood friends. We have been in the same school for 3 years after which we have lived in separate cities but always remained connected through letters and phones. While I was an emotional girl, she was the balanced and practical one who always tried to build in reason and logic in our prolonged conversations.

After almost two decades destiny brought us together to live in the same city and we met after 18 long years. Her daughter was elder than my son so I took a lot of advice from her on parenting as well as in general and she ensured and gave me nothing short of the best. Whether or not I accepted them, was a different ball game altogether because I too am a very opinionated person9grin but she surely added value to my perspective.

When I gave up my career to embrace my passion and started my academy she also joined her father-in-law's financial consultancy firm. Both of us got engrossed in our work and gradually our conversations became very very rare. In between her son was born and she kept really busy and I too preferred not to disturb her. 

I still have this habit of checking on my friends, just drop a hello or ask if they need something.  There is rarely a chance of anyone getting angry as I almost never lose patience or offend anyone. But this girl she kept disconnecting my calls for months altogether and if rarely she picked she told me she will call back. Sensing something isn’t correct,  I kept sending messages to her that I want to meet her which she kept mutely reading. I felt helpless until one day she called back. 

She told me that she had been grappling severe depression and therefore has shut down herself from the world. To me, it came as a shock because she was the last person I could have imagined to have a mental ailment. Blessed with an understanding husband, two lovely children as well as doing good in professional front, it was difficult to imagine what could have put her down. But the fact is there can be n number of reasons for it.

All they need is the awareness, of the immediate family members and friends to help them get medical intervention at the earliest. She was lucky she got the right aid on time and her condition is now in control with proper medication. 

It made me think, if this could happen to her then it can to anybody. We women often keep our deepest thoughts forever suppressed in our heart which can take a toll on our mental and physical health and we may get ailments for life which again we will keep to ourselves and perish silently.

It’s time we wake up and come out of this everyone else, not me zone. It’s time we don’t keep it all hidden in our heart and get up and become our own voice. It is our very first step towards our empowerment, financial or any other form of independence will loose it's meaning if we don't have a sound mental health, so please get rid of all the baggage immediately and live a happy, cheerful life. Never keep things buried in your heart, be your own voice!






This is my fourteenth post for my 4th consecutive Global #AtoZChallenge and #BlogchatterA2Z. You can read my earlier post in this Women Empowerment Series here: ABCDEFGHIJKL, M

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Sunday, 14 April 2019

Most Vital for a Woman is to identify and acknowledge her Desires #WomenEmpowerment #BlogchatterA2Z

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Prema owns a tiny gift and stationery shop in the society I live in. On special occasions, we also book her to apply the traditional Indian mehndi or henna on our hands which is her passion as well as her source of extra income. She is a true artist and is near perfect at the art. I love the way she clads in her Rajasthani lehengas and works extra hard to retain her clients. 

She belongs to a small village in Rajasthan and was the only child of her parents till she was fourteen and they fondly called her Prem. This was when her younger brother was born and a wave of unparalleled happiness spread in the family. As is still a tradition in many Rajasthani villages she was married off at an age of seventeen and she came to Pune with her husband. 

They both had together rented this small shop and work extra hard to grow their business. While her husband handles procurement she handles sales which is ideal for them because while she never fails to impress me, my first encounter with her husband was a total fiasco, he missed the basics.

Prema is all of nineteen now, she comes to my house often to apply henna and asks me a million questions. She is raw, unabashedly ambitious and a bundle of energy. She is also very honest though not very practical which is acceptable as she is still in her late teens. 

She is a school drop out but now realizes the value of education and has resumed her education and often asks me her doubts on Whatsapp. She believes it is never too late to begin. If you go to her shop, you will see her reading. It warms my heart and I always motivate her, sometimes I also unnecessarily buy something from her shop to lift her spirits further. She says she also wishes to do masters in business management one day. What is heartening is that though her husband who is just a few years elder to her and who himself doesn’t like studying is supportive of her zeal and efforts.

Isn’t it really nice? I know she has miles to go before she sleeps. Coming from a small village she could have easily got lost in the ocean of the big city but she instead adapted to its ways and wants to rise and shine. Ironically next to her shop, is the entry to a posh college where many her age, are still trying to discover the purpose of their lives.

Her example shows that India is rising from a deep slumber where women were often suppressed and were denied the power to dream and fulfill their dreams. Every time I see her, my eyes twinkle with joy, yes, the women are on the right path to empowerment. She is a lesson to many of her age. It is most vital for us to identify and acknowledge our desires because this realization is what solely gives us the right focus to march ahead.




This is my thirteenth post for my 4th consecutive Global #AtoZChallenge and #BlogchatterA2Z. You can read my earlier post in this Women Empowerment Series here: ABCDEFGHIJ, K, L

Truly Yours Roma

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