Why being a best friend of self is Important

 

Life has been a roller coaster for the past few years and I have not been able to catch up with it but I am still trying to show up every day. I put up a brave front almost always and face life head-on as it comes each day. Some days I lose it, even shed tears sometimes but I let it pass in the hope of a better tomorrow because no matter how rosy a picture we paint, this is how life is. In fact, the challenges it poses for us make it worth living. If everything would have happened according to what we desired we may now be able to enjoy them in a real sense. So there is a simple mantra I have learned to live by

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Life is beautiful, God is kind, take one day at a time 

The difficulties of today may soon melt away and the darkness shall soon give way to sunshine

because nothing else is working for me. From being trained in a Japanese organization where we devoted 70% of our time to planning, I have taken a 360-degree turn to only dwell at the moment. 

You can read my earlier posts in this series here:

1. The Power of Speech

2. 6 Ways to Use Your Internal Strength to Overcome Non-conducive External Factors

3. The Power of Suggestions to help the ones you love, tap the power of their subconscious

4. You Become What Your Mind Thinks Of You

I had a beautiful settled life in Pune surrounded by my students, and my academy, which gave my life meaning. After giving up my dream job in Ikea of Sweden, this is the best thing that has happened to me. I love being a positive change in people’s life and that is what I aim to do with my writings and in my Endometriosis Support Group or whichever way I can. (This is why I am hosting an exclusive blog hop with my friend Rakhi Jayashankar in October which is an emotional wellness month and how I feel emotional wellness and intelligence are most neglected in India).

Life was modest in Pune for a decade and being a girl who thrives on little joys of life, I liked my low-profile life and money never meant anything more than the necessity to survive. In July 2019 I had my major endometriosis surgery and in September 2019 I shifted with my bag and baggage to Delhi. With my students many of whom became my friends for life, I left my life, my heart, and my new home back and was welcomed to the extravagant Delhi with open arms but I could never really fit in and stay mostly confined indoors soaking in my own company. I often ran to spend months in Vadodara Gujarat and Goa whenever I got a chance perhaps because at heart I am a nomad who never really settles at a place.

Though I am proud that in the past year, I have genuinely evolved a lot mentally and in a safe space after a long, yes life is still a battle but the mind manages it mostly. My mind encourages me to go on self-dates where I choose to go to a beautiful cafe or garden and spend time with myself penning beautiful thoughts for my articles or books or penning fiction sometimes sipping my favorite coffee or a Belgian chocolate shake. I don’t plan or strategize anymore, I just dwell in that moment, those 30 minutes to 1 hour that I steal for myself, and then get back to my routine responsibilities.

Of course, I have some friends in Delhi but the way I have started to enjoy my own company is therapeutic, I am genuinely now my own best friend. I love how whenever I have peaceful early mornings to myself, I chant in silence with Alexa or do Yoga. Long nature walks in the jungle behind my home alone listening to old Hindi songs like that in the movie ‘Guide’ or black and white Hindi songs instantly lift me up and make me smile. This is how I secure my mental health during the endo flare-ups I undergo every month so often in the last fifteen years of my battle with endometriosis.

Being my own best friend has healed me and empowered me and this friendship is forever because it has become my guiding light, particularly as I advent in my forties. My writings are not only the softest most earnest pieces of my heart but also they are my channel to share with the world all that I wish it to know and learn from or gain from. This anecdote too was meant to reach all of you. Thank you for taking out time to read me.

If you like what I write, you can grab copies of my seven published works here: The Fragrance of True Love, Destiny's Favorite Child, Dare to Defy The Destiny, Empowered Women Empower Women, Soulful Letters On COVID, for My Future Grandchild, I Live to Love You and Soft Strings Of My Heart 

Also, as the founder of the Endometriosis Support and Awareness Group of India, I would love for you to join me in my mission or approach me for any women health-related assistance you seek.

    

Understand your child's internet usage with Happinetz

As parents of the current generation the biggest challenge we face is how to keep our child's internet usage safe and regulated. We understand that the child's internet usage is bound to increase as he or she grows up with the online learning boom and the advent of social media. As a mother of a teenager I hope that he has enough judgment to decide on what content not to click on, which knowingly or unknowingly, he might come across while surfing for online education or for doing his assignments.

When we adults fall prey to the enticing advertisements that keep popping up on our screens, how can we be sure that the innocent kid at the cusp of adulthood might not check out the same out of curiosity? I have always secretly wished for a convenient method to filter what content reached him. My second worry is the number of hours the kids clock on the internet these days. The Internet has become their comfort space not only for studying but also for playing as well as for social interactions.

Today I want to share with you how I have found an innovative solution to the above problems that can regulate my child's internet usage safely as per my desire. I have connected a device known as Happinetz Box to my home router which exhaustively filters all the inappropriate websites and apps from reaching our children when I connect their devices to it through Wifi. In simple words, Happinetz Box provides Safe Internet for Kids by connecting to our home router, wired or wirelessly.

Monitor your child’s internet usage as a guide and not a controller

I am so impressed by this box because it gives us immense flexibility as parents to decide what content will reach our kids on a macro level and at a micro level we can blacklist or whitelist certain websites as per our child's internet usage requirement which can be age specific. I control all of this with the help of the super user-friendly ‘Happinetz App’ on my phone which is my magic wand to understand my child's Internet usage behavior in utmost detail.

Additionally, Happinetz helps us set customizable time slots when our child can access the internet which in the case of younger children can be the discretion of the parents while in the case of teens can be mutually decided. For the time that they are on the internet, we get a real-time report generated of the websites and apps they visited and the time their devices were on the internet. Several graphs and pie charts generated, analyzing the comparative usage help us guide our kids better and enforce discipline amicably because we can show them real data of the time that got wasted on non-fruitful activities.

Exhaustive multi-level filtering system

This is what makes Happinetz stand out. It is not a device for surveillance but for guidance, it helps us teach our children judgment because the sudden onslaught of irrelevant content on the internet can be baffling. Happinetz renders a safe internet environment for them and helps parents get rid of all their worries because they are extremely sure that the two most dangerous categories of adult content and security breach content are always blocked under all circumstances.

Will you believe me if I tell you that Happinetz monitors and tracks more than 110 million websites and more than 22 million adult and malicious websites are blocked by default by it which makes me feel empowered as a parent for I know the strong tech team behind is working for our internet safety 24x7 with its state-of-the-art technology. It has brought so much peace in my life and eased my burden so much just like a 2 a.m. expert friend.

The insights that Happinetz generates for me, showing at length, all the websites accessed by my kid help me open a bidirectional dialogue with my child on the topic of using that particular website to what limits more objectively. This makes him take responsibility for his actions and decide his screen time hours as well. Once he follows it religiously, he gets rewarded with a pick from Happinetz Reward Cardz which rewards him with eleven adorable options to choose from. This gives him a sense of achievement too while obeying rules becomes his lifestyle. Thus I feel every parent must install Happinetz in their homes.

My belief in Happinetz is further reinforced by the fact that it is developed by a set of smart parents (who are also engineers) whom I have known personally for several years and who would launch a genuine innovation to society only if they were 110% sure of its effectiveness. I am so proud of them that they identified this need and burned the midnight oil to give us a solution to the problem of our child’s internet usage which has been a challenge for most of us.

Also, did I tell you that Happinetz is a Mode Based System? It has 3 modes, kid mode, teen mode, and parent mode and each mode appropriately corresponds to a certain age group. Each mode has its own filters and customizable settings to help suit a parent’s needs. No App installation is required on the kid’s device and we can connect as many as 10 devices at a time to the Happinetz box. It is highly adaptable and works on all browsers and devices.

2-step, 5-minute installation of Happinetz

Buying Happinetz is very easy. We can buy it at the link here. They are running a great inaugural discount too. Happinetz comes in impressive packaging which contains Happinetz Box, Power Adapter, Ethernet Cable, Happinetz Reward Cardz, 6-month subscription with access to all features.

Installation of Happinetz is a cakewalk and takes at most 5 minutes in total. We need to plug in a cable between our internet router and the box and power up the box with the adaptor provided. It can also be connected remotely to the router if desired. Next, we install the Happinetz app on our phones and connect our kid’s devices to the Happinetz Wifi after switching off Mac Randomisation on the phones and tablets, for laptops and television sets this step is not needed.

I have found the detailed videos on Happinetz YouTube channel super helpful in answering all my questions. Also, we can ask for real-time assistance on the Happinetz website. I deeply appreciate how they assist us until our last need so that the purpose of Happinetz to give us happiness is served perfectly. Just remember to let your kid’s devices be only on the Happinetz Wifi and all other passwords must be changed and data connection not given to help us gauge the child’s internet usage perfectly.

Once the device is up and running you will be surprised at how easy it is for you to monitor and safeguard your child’s internet usage and feel so free and liberated. Honestly, Happinetz is a perfect gift for us parents, to keep the most important little humans in our lives safe and happy while on the internet, and empowers us like nothing else.

Need I say, I am such a proud Happinetz Parent. What else could have I asked for other than #SafeInternetforKids? I highly recommend it to every parent because Happinetz is the need of the hour. To order it straight away, click here.

OMG2 Review: I am glad the subject of Mandatory Sex Education In India Got Raised

I am a strong advocate of meaningful cinema and really appreciate how Indian cinema is finally coming of age by picking up strong subjects. I generally don’t write reviews of Bollywood movies, barring a few, which I believe need to be talked about and people must be inspired to watch them. Lately, I watched OMG2 because I liked the first installment of the franchise and I had heard that it is about sex education in kids.

I am so glad a sensitive subject like this got picked up and was done due justice to. The movie highlights how a young teenager gets trapped and falls victim to his own ignorance. The movie talks openly about concepts like masturbation and penis enlargement and brings forth a genuinely disturbing situation(being expelled from school) for his naive simpleton parents who lived in Ujjain where even talking about these things was a sin. Obviously, the kid had no education about these and was instigated by his friends to try different things who later shot his video and made it viral.

This movie is about the fight of a father in court against the school, the system that does not teach his child about his own body and its biological processes, and also against those who sell the child cheap drugs and other treatments for the enlargement of his genitalia. He also holds himself responsible for not giving his son the right exposure.

Honestly, this movie is an eye-opener. Even if it is given an A certification by the sensor board, all parents must watch it because it reminds us strongly that our sons and daughters must be given proper sex education, at length, at the right time, for their right growth. All of them must be taught about puberty and reproduction. It makes us realize that the changes in them can baffle them and with wrong answers to their questions on Google or elsewhere they may get misled badly. Many of us know this but don’t know the right way to talk about this to our children but once it is taught in a dignified manner as a proper mandatory part of the curriculum, it can help open a bidirectional dialogue at home too as the kids will not find the subject taboo, only to be talked in hushed voices to peers who themselves may not be sure of several things. 

In India, many feel that openly talking about it is averse to our culture but for the sake of our children, we need to embrace this change at the earliest. Indian Education System must integrate and introduce sex education in all boards as mandatory.

This is precisely the message in the movie and also the need of the hour. No wonder the movie star, Akshay Kumar, who has acted in movies based on some really worthy subjects like Padman, wants this movie to be shown in schools.

Acting-wise, the protagonist, the father is played by my favourite actor Pankaj Tripathi does not disappoint. Akshay Kumar though I felt had hardly 5-6 scenes. Most characters were nice and real and nonflashy. The simplicity and rawness of the characters in the backdrop of the Mahakal devotees community in Ujjain are beautifully weaved as the heart of India is still not modern in their hearts. You most definitely watch this movie and I hope you will definitely agree with me.

If you like what I write, you can grab copies of my seven published works here: The Fragrance of True Love, Destiny's Favorite Child, Dare to Defy The Destiny, Empowered Women Empower Women, Soulful Letters On COVID, for My Future Grandchild, I Live to Love You and Soft Strings Of My Heart 

Also, as the founder of the Endometriosis Support and Awareness Group of India, I would love for you to join me in my mission or approach me for any women health-related assistance you seek.

This post is a part of Blogchatter Half Marathon 2023

You Become What Your Mind Thinks Of You

Yes, we become what our mind thinks of us. I start this post with this powerful and capable statement for I know it is the biggest truth most of us are oblivious to, for the longest time and the sooner we learn to use it in our favour the better it is.

Post my earlier articles of this series on,

1. The Power of Speech

2. 6 Ways to Use Your Internal Strength to Overcome Non-conducive External Factors

3. The Power of Suggestions to help the ones you love, tap the power of their subconscious,

today, I wish to request you to aim high in your life and also think highly of yourself because what our 'mind' thinks of us is what it feeds our 'conscious' with. Like I have said in my previous articles, these thoughts then deeply sink into our 'subconscious' which has immense potential to make it come true if we genuinely believe in it. Our 'subconscious' further interacts with the 'universe' which conspires to make our 'manifestation' of our high aims and our self-worth come true.

This principle holds true whether we are a woman or a child or a man. Let nobody’s wrong notions about you pull you down at any instance. No one knows you like you know yourself and you know best what you want. 

'So, set your aim and let your mind believe that you will achieve it, come what may. Your mind is all capable of granting your wish'

But remember negative thoughts are much more potent than positive ones and can linger in our brain making us uncomfortable and disturbing our mental health. Our first goal, thus, is to free ourselves of all negative thoughts. Trust me when I say this, negativity can cause havoc in an otherwise happy and chirpy person’s life for no reason. Now how to do this, pls stay away from toxic people or any medium like some handles on social media who make you feel negative. 

'Surround yourself with people and things that make you happy and help you pull up and not down'

 This might look difficult at the start but you can do it, I am a live example in front of you. Once you are in the right company of thoughts and your mind is happy, cheerful, and ready to fly high, please take a pen and paper and write down what you desire in life. 

Tell your mind all that you wish to achieve. Let your brain churn ideas to fulfill those dreams, aim high, and get so busy in fulfilling them that nothing else matters and there is no room left for any loneliness or void or any negative thoughts that one experiences. Tap the power of your mind in your favor. I repeat you become what your mind thinks of you. It can help you sail through the most difficult times without losing your composure like a breeze. I have faced all of these really hard in my life to have discovered what really helps after a lot of research and self-introspection. You can reach out to me anytime if you need help. 

Our mind is all-powerful, it controls every single organ of our body through its subconscious. It can help us tap our inner strength that we ourselves might not know would have gone dormant. I personally know people who have tapped the power of their subconscious mind to cure themselves of diseases and pain completely. So, start working on training your mind today.

In this series, in my forthcoming posts, I shall write to you about the most powerful manifestation tools available to mankind. 

If you like what I write, you can grab copies of my seven published works here: The Fragrance of True Love, Destiny's Favorite Child, Dare to Defy The Destiny, Empowered Women Empower Women, Soulful Letters On COVID, for My Future Grandchild, I Live to Love You and Soft Strings Of My Heart 

Also, as the founder of the Endometriosis Support and Awareness Group of India, I would love for you to join me in my mission or approach me for any women health-related assistance you seek.

This post is a part of Blogchatter Half Marathon 2023

The Power of Suggestions to help the ones you love, tap the power of their subconscious

Hello my precious people, as promised, after my last two posts on the Power of Speech and on 6 Ways to Use Your Internal Strength to Overcome Non-conducive External Factors which were mainly for self-improvement and building our strong mental foundation to take life head-on, today I want to talk to you about the power of suggestions for mental wellness. 

Now, what do we do in manifestation? For those new to this, while manifesting we imagine something that we deeply desire to have already happened and imagine living in that moment while thanking the universe for the same. Gradually, the vibrations of our desire spread in the universe, and the power of our subconscious ensures we fulfill what we envisioned. But this is all about self and trust me it does come true, I am a live example in front of you. I manifest, I meditate, I chant, I write and I help, all these work magic for me and I live in peace.

Today the question that I am addressing is, can we also manifest for another person, like our spouse or parents or kids or friends whose conscious thoughts are negative hence their subconscious is manifesting their fears into reality? 

Yes, we really can and that is the power of suggestions. We can not only suggest our own subconscious but also the other persons, whom we want to benefit from or tap the power of their subconscious. Here is the simplest technique and once I share it with you I will also explain with an example how you practically implement it in your everyday life. 

Our subconscious has infinite power but what it does not have is the power to distinguish between the truth and lie, whatever thoughts the conscious brain feeds into it, it believes it to be true and channelizes our body to act accordingly. So all we have to do is suggest the conscious brain of that person again and again what it is capable of and sooner or later he or she will start believing in it and the thoughts will sink in his or her subconscious and align to make it true. So just say I suggest followed by strongly whatever you feel shall the person in front of you. If that person is far off or you are not talking you can also keep sending them the vibrations of these suggestions remotely.

Let me explain it with the help of an example, Rajshri would always fear that her child will fall sick and her thoughts often manifested with Kian getting unwell at the drop of a hat when he was a little kid. She would often talk about her fear to the kid as well suggesting don’t do this or don't do that, as he might fall sick. Later, when she overcame her fears and started manifesting good health for Kian, her anxiety has already rubbed on the child who has passed the fear from his conscious brain to the subconscious. Kian's mighty subconscious in turn instructed all organs of his body accordingly. So Rajshri’s manifestation for her child became contrary to the fear that the child was unknowingly manifesting. She soon understood her folly and used the power of suggestion wisely several times a day to influence her son’s conscious thoughts and in due course of time Kian started believing he was perfectly fit and thus sickness left his side forever. This is the power of suggestions a mom used strongly to set things right. Her mental wellness was the key to her son’s recovery which here could be any person related to her or herself. 

That is why I always say the mental wellness of women is most important and we must always keep enriching ourselves with ways to make us mentally strong because life undoubtedly is tough but we surely can fight it. We just need to tap the power of our subconscious in our favor and also use the power of suggestions to heal the ones in need.

We, women, have incredible potential but we don't take care of our wellness and often ignore ourselves, which is where things go haywire. We lose focus and never ask for ourselves what we deserve blaming it on our traditionally regressive grooming.

It is high time we also use the power of suggestions for ourselves and make all our dream come true and not shy away from what we are capable of. Embrace good health and wellness and in case you need any guidance, I am just a message away always ready to help.

Taking the liberty of sharing something that every woman in India must hear if possible. Here’s me talking about my battle with endometriosis all raw and straight from my heart on the talented Rakhi Jayashankar’s podcast Series-Warriors of Womanhood. I hope it strikes a chord and you would know why our wellness is so critical.

If you like what I write, you can grab copies of my seven published works here: The Fragrance of True Love, Destiny's Favorite Child, Dare to Defy The Destiny, Empowered Women Empower Women, Soulful Letters On COVID, for My Future Grandchild, I Live to Love You and Soft Strings Of My Heart 

Also, as the founder of the Endometriosis Support and Awareness Group of India, I would love for you to join me in my mission or approach me for any women health-related assistance you seek.

"This post is a part of Wellness Hour Blog Hop by Rakhi Jayashankar and Swarnali Nath"

The Power of Our Speech: The need to tweak it in our favour

 

Hello all, I had a good last week, resting in bed with my eyes closed(due to conjunctivitis) and got so much time to think, self-introspect, set goals, and add a lot of perspective to several half-cooked thoughts I have had over a long time. By the way, I also released the first episode of my podcast last week. If you want to know more about me, you can listen to it on Spotify by searching for Roma Gupta Sinha. Will hopefully record a lot more episodes in the coming future thanks to all the love and suggestions you all are candidly showering on me right after the first episode.

Today I was very keen on writing about the power of suggestions to our subconscious. It is an important tool to help us induce positive thoughts from our conscious brain to our subconscious and manifest what we want the universe to conspire to confer on us but on the contrary I will write to you on something which I feel is even more important. 

So let me first write to you about the power of our speech perhaps because my work last week has been more related to recording my speech and the impact, other speakers of the crazy number of podcasts I heard, has had on me.

I firmly believe that we might have some very beautiful ideas in our genius brain but if we don’t put our thoughts out perfectly, not only when we are writing an article or when we are recording a podcast but also when we are talking to any person whether it is at our home, talking to our spouse or our children or helpers or a neighbor or at work or to strangers, he or she might not know perfectly what we intend to convey. The power of our speech has immense potential and it is the only thing that makes a lot of difference in determining the vibrations and positivity of the place we are in. 

Just like the person sitting in front of you may like you, adore you, or love you but you only know how he or she feels about you by how he or she is speaking to you no matter how well acquainted you are. Similarly, you may like the person sitting in front of you, but as a matter of habit or the feeling of taking him or her for granted if you are not appreciating him or her sooner or later you may lose that person because how will that person know that you care? This is the power of our speech and of course, our actions speak louder than words, but what is equally important is that we tap into the power of our speech perfectly.

Below are the six points I feel we must strive hard to make a habit because our speech has incredible power in making and breaking our relationships and in determining how our life is

1. Please think before you speak: Sometimes we regret speaking out what we didn’t intend to as we speak at the spur of the moment without thinking because we are impulsive. What we utter can make or break our relationships and our repenting later can steal our peace of mind so take a moment before you speak and weigh your words.

2. Speak only when needed: For an extrovert like me who loves talking, I have now decided to channel my talking power very wisely and with the right person. With the rest of the world, I ration my words and speak only the amount needed. It helps both sides to maintain their space and sanity. Also, the one who speaks less his or her words have more impact, the sooner we realize this truth the better it is.

3. Please watch out for the tone in which you speak: Now this is something really important because many times our choice of words is correct but not our tone which may be satirical or expressing extreme attitude or some sort of superiority or inferiority complex. 

4. Be gentle and polite: Spread love through your words. We have only one life why waste it using curt words or backbiting or bitching(for the lack of a better word), rather be gentle and polite, I have always tried to walk the extra mile when it comes to this. 

5. Be mindful of how your words may affect the person in front of you: Now this is the most difficult part but this skill can be honed into a habit with regular practice. So if there is a situation that the person in front of you has hurt you badly, I don’t ask you to step into that person’s shoes or forgive anything that may not be possible humanly for everyone. But I practice this one thing always. I am very mindful of my words and behavior in those circumstances. I mostly withdraw from there and sleep over the issue and later if I still feel I was right I convey it to the person in front of me at the right time when it will have maximum impact on him or her.

6. Don’t give negative suggestions: The power of suggestions holds immense potential, it induces the vibrations of our words not only into the thoughts of the person in front of us but also in the universe and these vibrations then ensure that what we said eventually comes true mostly. So we must always give positive suggestions to ourselves and everyone and they can benefit us in more ways than we can imagine. More about the power of suggestions in my next article. Stay tuned.

If you like what I write, you can grab copies of my seven published works here: The Fragrance of True Love, Destiny's Favorite Child, Dare to Defy The Destiny, Empowered Women Empower Women, Soulful Letters On COVID, for My Future Grandchild, I Live to Love You and Soft Strings Of My Heart

6 Ways How to use your Internal Strength to Overcome Non-conducive External Factors

 

Life tests us in multiple ways. Sometimes we fail to battle our internal conflicts and despite the calm outside our mind is never at peace. On the other hand, sometimes you are in a calm serene place internally but the external factors yearn hard to let your mental peace go for a toss. Balancing the two energies can sometimes be tricky even for the most patient souls. Today my heart says I must write about these as I discover new ways daily. You are most welcome to add your experiences to this article, for mine is an ongoing journey and I evolve every moment. 

Some time ago my external world was perfect for I was adjusting, adapting, and compromising but internally I experienced chaos. So I raised my voice and expressed what I felt and it threw my external world in frenzy. Nevertheless, I didn’t repent for it was really well thought of over a long period of time and it help me restore my mental sanctity. I have always believed and still believe self-help is the best help and so now as internally I feel extremely peaceful, calm, and content, what should I do so that my external world falls in place? 

1. First and foremost believe in yourself: It requires incredible power to fight the whole world to keep the belief in self alive. So be very sure that you are right and once you do, there is no going back. In deciding what is right for you please vet your decisions with someone you can genuinely trust and that is where I say or is very important to have a guru who guides you without any prejudice or judgment because sometimes your decisions might be difficult for your near and dear ones or may hurt them for they are so used to you agreeing to everything they say. So believe in yourself strongly and feel that internal wellness matters the most at all times, be sure because people may try to brainwash you. Trust me this zen-like state is the most difficult to achieve so if you are there, you are in your best phase mentally, please don’t give it up at any cost.

2. Give space, Pray, and Meditate: To let your internal and external spaces balance we need to give time. Don’t be in haste, it will take time. Understand others’ perspectives. Be genuine, be loving and giving and also give space, possibility is that your external world will understand you gradually if you were genuinely loved. Otherwise, it is better to let go of the toxic people. I have learned the art of giving space in a magical way through praying and meditating as much as I can. Om chanting and Yoga are my go-to, to let go of all negative energies and suck in all the precious positive power of the universe. Honestly, I am so surprised to tap the power of my own conscious.

3. Get busy: To me when I am super busy, I am super happy so leave your mind no time and space to keep thinking about what the external world is thinking about you. To each his own, they might have their own opinions. Don’t let them weigh you down. Do lend them an ear if they ask because communication is the key but desperation of any sort is bad. Rather focus your energies in the right direction. 

4. Have goals: By right direction above I mean do set goals for yourself, both long-term and short-term goals, and dedicate yourself to fulfilling them to the best of your abilities. They can be as small as eating right 5 days a week or as big as building your dream business no matter what your age is. This shall uplift you further in your own eyes; that is all that matters. We must first learn to respect ourselves so that others too look at us in the same way.

5. Meet people you love: The most important wisdom in life is to differentiate between your real ties and toxic people. We must cut off from toxic people at all costs and if you can’t, please restrict it to only Hi-Hello-How are you, under all circumstances. It takes a while but trust me we can do it. I am a firm believer of man-made ties where we choose our family knowing who is right for us. The sooner you get better at this, the sooner you will attain true peace. Once chosen, meet the people you love and spend time with them unapologetically. The best part would be that you can be yourself with them and they won’t judge you because like you have chosen them, they have chosen you too.

Extra Tip: Please stop judging people because until you step into their shoes you will never be able to experience their side of the story. I let go of everyone who has wronged me giving this benefit of doubt and it helps me fare better in life.

  6. Do what gives you joy: I always say, life is beautiful and we are blessed to have one, so we must do what gives us the most joy, to enhance our experience of life. For example, I am writing this article because I am an extrovert and I love talking to you. Thus expressing myself to you gives me unparalleled joy. Similarly, I took a rather long Europe trip recently though in bad health because for me, traveling is healing and it did turn out to be therapeutic. Words fail me to describe how wonderful I felt.  So please go full throttle in engaging in things you love the most, life is too short my loves, please live it to your fullest.

If you like what I write, you can grab copies of my seven published works here: The Fragrance of True Love, Destiny's Favorite Child, Dare to Defy The Destiny, Empowered Women Empower Women, Soulful Letters On COVID, for My Future Grandchild, I Live to Love You and Soft Strings Of My Heart