Be Independent For No One Else But For Yourself

Ever since I was very small, my mom always told me one thing, come what may I must be standing on my feet all my life. Even before her untimely demise at 49 years of age the last advice she gave me was to under no circumstances give up my financial independence. All through her life her only agenda was that I excelled in education and make a mark for myself. There was perhaps a lot that went in her brain which she seldom burdened me with but sometimes I cringed under the immense pressure.

Almost 12 years later today I understand what she meant far more clearer than ever before. Unfortunately despite of trying my best I could not keep my promise to her and exactly like her gave up a wonderful career at its peak after sailing in two boats took a toll on my life post maternity especially the traveling part. She was a strong woman whose talks exuded wisdom and who had a very profound understanding of life, so she knew I may reach such crossroads in life, so she equipped me with multiple talents and the vehement urge to keep fighting and carve my niche no matter what I do, small or big and eventually sooner or later get on my own feet. Needless to say whatever little I am today is only because of her. No one can ever fathom what she has been through all her life and if given a chance I surely will write a book on her, I am yet to witness such an amalgamation of intellect and sacrifice, in my life.

When I decided to quit job for some years, I always felt that if I have the talent I will always bounce back with twice the vigour and the intention was never to burden my partner with my bills because one major repercussion of having a high profile MNC job for years is you become a spendthrift and it gets very difficult to curtail the lavish lifestyle. Luckily it never became a bone of contention between me and S thanks to us being besties of decades but I knew not for anyone else but for myself I must pay my own bills at least even if I am at home....for me making my own money gives me a different kind of a high and I die a million deaths if at all I have to ask someone for it.

Intellectually too after working across major organisations round the globe, to satiate my creative instincts, I started writing. This was absolutely not to make money but for my immense love for writing ever since I was a child. It relieves me and makes me happy till the present day. It’s my passion and I got so soaked in it that never realised when it started paying me. No doubt I make fair money through it, nevertheless writing is never a fixed salary kind of an income no matter how good you are at your task. Though my second love, my communication skills academy ensures that and I am glad I can pay all my bills and have a little extra too for the spendthrift me to engage in my tiny desires♥️.

This post is not tell if I make money or not or how good or bad a person who makes money is but to say how everyone, all women and men should be financially independent not for anyone else but for themselves. It boosts your confidence, self-esteem and your self-worth. You need not always have a big degree to make some money but the passion to pursue the craft you excel at and trust me after initial hiccups, hard work and sincerity are always rewarded. Financial independence makes you eligible to take vital decisions of your life yourself while if we are dependent on others they knowingly or unknowingly control our decisions and thus our lives too sometimes, which should not be the case.

Also, through this post I don’t mean to demean the stay at home counterpart of a marriage but motivate her or him to begin on his own from his home itself and don’t forget to have a long term vision. It truly will soothe your soul and appease your heart! My mom was right, no matter what, one must be financially independent not for anyone else but for himself or herself ♥️.

Have you read our earlier True Tales in the #FoodforThought series? Find them below.

  1.When the negative energy around her breaks her down

2.You Don't Love Me Mom

3.Confessions of an Unapologetic Mom

4.Indian Alice in Wonderland

 5.Dear Aaji, I miss you and your Golden Talisman

6.Some Wounds Never Heal

7.The Incomplete Feeling that lingers on...
8.Is it ok to withdraw terming her a socially awkward child?

9. Isn't it good to Share, Mom!

10.I am not an emotionless Hard Rock
11. When Her Little Sunshine Asked Her To Get Back To Her Dreams But The World Was Not Ready To Accept Her

12.The Little Boy At The Signal Who Still Wakes Me Up In The middle Of Night

13. Was she in love with two different men?

14. Please find someone else

My Special Myntra For Making A House My Home Sweet Home Instantaneously

One funny or rather not so funny thing post our marriage has been that we had for a valid reason always of course changed more number of houses then the number of years we have been wedded for. Job changes, dream to move into our own, mommy-hood and many other reasons have literally made us impressively adaptable nomads😄. It isn’t difficult for I have long back learnt to disassociate my emotions with the place we dwell in, being a banker’s daughter who was frequently transferred.

While it is easier said than done for no matter what I say, an emotional person like me associate a lot of value to my home sweet home. Many years ago, not only emotionally, I used to invest financially a lot too to beautify our abode and make it the best place to come back to and cosy around with your loved ones and thus when I left that place, I deliberately left behind many of my favorite pieces there lest my last home would look deserted and desolate when we were gone.

But with time I have grown pretty smart. Now, I style my every home without burning a hole in my pocket and still in a way that is so close to my heart. Well, you all know how I love to weave sweet memories by clicking billions of pictures and I do the walls of my home framing these memories in a creative personalised way in exquisite Photo Frames.

One of my favorite places to pick these artistic Photo Frames at unimaginably value for money prices is Myntra. These photo frames pretty much adorn seamlessly almost all the main walls of my home and are beautifully packed and carried when I need to move. I really love how some of the designs like the tree one satiate the nature lover in me and help me theme my rooms. We can as well use it to showcase our family tree with some pretty pictures of our grandparents too. I am never short of ideas with these frames.

What I also love is I can play around with the frames to arrange them in different settings and always render a new look to my home without a single penny spent.

Another thing I love to adorn the walls of my abode with are Wall Stickers, how they infuse a new zeal of life in the otherwise morose walls. At unbelievably low prices there are a humungous number of options available at the same source, Myntra which remains my forever favorite. You can choose the wall stickers of paintings, of hearts, of slogans and some colourful adorable ones too for your little ones room.

I love the fact that I now don’t need a painter to paint my mind on my walls to make it my home sweet home. I just order the wall stickers or decals as they call it and use the technique mentioned in it to do it myself and am now a pro at it already. Initially I left a couple of bubbles will doing a walls but you can easily prick them with a pin unnoticeably to get the perfect finish.

So these are my two new hottest favourites to do my houses my own special and smart way at almost negligible cost and loads of personalised feel. I like doing a combination too sometimes, like may be a slogan wall sticker for the dining room, a couple of hearts for our bedroom, a scenery for the drawing hall and yes may be a peacock for my library😊.

Truly Yours Roma loves having colours all around and highly recommends these two ways of giving your home sweet home a new lease of life personalised only for you and your loved ones ♥️ ,no matter whether you have to redo your abode or are moving to a new one.

This Valentine’s Day we bring to the fragrance of true love straight from Paris♥️ (Enchanteur Paris Perfumes Review and Giveaway)

♥️ #Winners #winnersannounced #TrulyYoursRoma #enchanteurindiagiveaway @enchanteur_in ♥️♥️: Anagha Yatin, Heer Jalundhwala and Kashifah Shaikh

No matter what people say of it, Valentine’s Day is a festival in my home and we celebrate it in a little special way each time reliving the old priceless memories and weaving the new precious ones. While it is very easy to choose a gift for the more flamboyant me, it isn’t that easy to pick one for the choosy and classy hubby. Probably good watches and mesmerising fragrances are the two things he loves the most. While I was contemplating what to gift him to enrich his already rich collection, some exotic beauties straight from Paris landed at my door. They were the French Perfumes from Enchanteur, a global leader in Perfume Industry which has created its mark in more than 50 countries all over the world and is now in India. There website is www.enchanteur.in and in case you wish to purchase one, I have a little something for you this Valentine’s Day...you may use coupon code - ROMA to avail a flat 20% off on all their products.

Could if get better♥️? Though I wasn’t sure if these elegant packs held perfumes which were for men or were feminine, I thought I must quickly review them for all of you right here, this valentine season. The products I review in this post are their new enchanting range known as ETDs (Eau De Toilette) ~ Enchanteur Paris Belle Amour and Mon Amie Fragrances for you.

These beauties were truly love at first sight for me.

First things first, the packaging of these products is pretty chick and soothing and makes it not only ideal for self use but also a perfect gifting option no matter what the occasion is. The inside cute rectangular bottles with a bow at the neck and Eiffel Tower at the top stole my heart at the first glance and I decided not to gift it to hubby but keep it for myself (grin :D), so you know how adorable they are. Also there size is just right to fit in my handbag which is such a necessity in me.

Another significant point which leaves me impressed(as I am a pretty environment conscious person) and so I am mentioning the same right at the start is that all these perfumes are ozone friendly.

Out of the two, Belle Amour which means Beautiful Love in French is my favorite. It’s lovely blend of Apple Melon, Blackcurrant and Parisian Pink transports you to a different world or course with your love. The fragrance is extremely soothing and captivating and enthrals you. Much to what I really prefer, it isn’t very sharp or staunch and is gentle and serene. This beauty from Enchanteur Paris is definitely going to remain my priced possession for a long time.

On the other hand if you love fruity smells, Enchanteur Paris’ Mon Amie meaning My Friend is absolutely for you or to gift to your best friend as a unique gift of true friendship. The fragrance is strong, attracting and fresh citrusy and also has smells of Red Apple and Pink Peonies...this fragrance surely can make heads turn on. So go paint the town red and leave your mark with it.

Now comes their pricing. Unbelievably, both the above products are priced at only 750 INR each which is a fair price in my eyes for this perfume and like I told you above you can avail a further 20% off if you use coupon code - ROMA on their website. So what are you waiting for, grab one now. You can as well win them from us, by participating in our contest below.

Yes, ♥️we present to you the Mega #EnchanteurIndiaGiveaway on Truly Yours Roma here, this Valentine’s Day♥️...The simplest ever contest to win priceless exotic perfumes from  our sponsors ~ Enchanteur. All you got to do is check their website here: www.enchanteur.in and let us know your favourite perfume that you would love to present to. your valentine.

Also, don’t forget to share this post tagging 10 of your friends because this valentine’s season we are spreading the fragrance of true love through Enchanteur 🌹. This contest in open for our blog(g+) , Facebook(Truly Yours Roma) , Instagram(@TrulyYrsRoma) and Twitter(@RomaGuptaSinha) handles’ followers only so you must be following us on all of them♥️ 

And did we say we have not one, not two but three winners in this mega #giveaway ♥️so get going.

Please aid us track your entries on all channels by using the compulsory hashtags: #TrulyYoursRoma #EnchanteurIndiaGiveaway.

Happy Valentine’s Day my precious Readers and Friends this contest is open for you all thru’ Feb♥️♥️♥️♥️. 

Love you all!!

Please Find Someone Else : Food For Thought Series Vol-14

If pure love would have a name it wouldn’t be better than Meet-Kavya. They indeed were made for each other and true love reflected not only in their eyes but in their every single expression, every single move towards each other. People swore by their love and by God’s grace their friendship of multiple years did culminate into a perfect wedding. All was merry in their paradise and the soon the birth of their tiny princess Tia further strengthened their priceless bond.

Not very materialistic people, they were happy in their tiny world with Meet doing well in his career and his lady love taking care of their princess and running a small business from home to satiate her creative instincts.

Not only everyone around but she herself has forgotten what an ambitious girl she once was. With threads of love, sincerity and utmost dedication she has weaved her little nest, she had presumed to be unbreakable and the happiness of the two lives of her life were what made her happy too. She never considered giving up a flourishing career at its peak a sacrifice...after all, their and eventually her happiness is all she wanted. Meet loved her immensely and their relationship saw many little ups and downs but has only grown stronger and more mature with each passing day. The way they trusted each other through thick and thin was an example and that’s where lied their strength.

Another aspect of both of their personalities was the goodness(a trait that has initially bound them together) of their hearts, helping the ones in need was their innate nature and their urge to help knew no limits. I know how good or bad this trait was but their was someone in Meet’s office who apparently needed him or for that matter anyone...she was a colleague, a divorcee and a single mom to a tiny tot. Meet always helped her to the best of his abilities as was his nature probably as he would have helped any other colleague in need. 

Then what really went wrong in Meet-Kavya’s paradise? The fact that the other person needed an emotional anchor if not a financial or a physical one for her life made her assume that because someone else left her for somebody else, she has all rights to steal Meet from Kavya. She deliberately invented ways to spend more and more time with Meet veiling all her moves under the name of friendship. Kavya saw this all but her trust on Meet was infallible. 

All her advances proved that she craved for the same love for herself and her child as Meet showered on his family. It breaks my heart to own that probably was right in aspiring for some love for herself( the complexity of human emotions is too deep to fathom)...the fact that she desired it at the cost of ruining a wonderfully happy family made her really bad.

Kavya is my bestie so my heart undoubtedly goes out to her but if you ask me, it undoubtedly has to be Meet who must resist all friendly advances and gestures from this person for undoubtedly it might be Meet’s helping hand or act of kindness is what is misread as something else (I so much wish she spares my Kavya and finds some other single man). Spending so much time together in the name of the other person being needy may be breaking some real loved one’s heart back home, who still places all her trust in you and so is quiet despite of friends and neighbours pointing it out  to her in random discussions. 

I don’t know if Meet is attracted towards her or but if maintaining distance from such a colleague is essential for someone back home to whom and to only whom you belong to and who deserves you every which way, Meet must take such a step. Not only for her but for the little one who calls her dad.No one has a slightest idea how this would not only ruin his present but to a greater extent his future with his spouse too for he would loose the ability to trust.

What would you have done in such a situation??

Have you read our earlier True Tales in the #FoodforThought series? Find them below.

  1.When the negative energy around her breaks her down

2.You Don't Love Me Mom

3.Confessions of an Unapologetic Mom

4.Indian Alice in Wonderland

 5.Dear Aaji, I miss you and your Golden Talisman

6.Some Wounds Never Heal

7.The Incomplete Feeling that lingers on...
8.Is it ok to withdraw terming her a socially awkward child?

9. Isn't it good to Share, Mom!

10.I am not an emotionless Hard Rock
11. When Her Little Sunshine Asked Her To Get Back To Her Dreams But The World Was Not Ready To Accept Her

12.The Little Boy At The Signal Who Still Wakes Me Up In The middle Of Night

13. Was she in love with two different men?

Music and Expression render rhythm to my soul and I enhance it with #BoseQC35 🎧 ~ My genie who makes my Wishes Come True

My decade old sweetheart, the younger me, 

My heart feels ecstatic today to apprise you of the wonderful fact that finally I have overcome all the flaws of the otherwise pretty sincere but clumsy me thanks to my VPA enabled #BoseQC35 II Headphones with limitless benefits. How I wish I had such a Virtual Private Assistant integrated into my wireless headphones like this much earlier in my life and I would not have wasted half of my life searching for my phone on which I am practically dependent for most of my work(Phew!!). Not only because I am a gadget freak for ages now, but also as I am a whimsical writer who need to pour out her thoughts at the spur of the moment as soon as one strikes my mind and an ardent extrovert who loves to communicate with all, so my phone is absolutely indispensable in my life. Well, it's a separate tale that I often forget where I have placed it. Buzzing it would have helped but the freakish do not disturb kinds me often leaves it in silent mode. Tantadan! But now I am out of the turmoil permanently.

Earnestly speaking, this technological marvel which has almost become a norm in the current generation is my ‘Personal Genie 🧞‍♀️’ who makes all my wishes come true from the time I wake up in the morn till I shut my eyes. All I got is to clad my ears in this extraordinarily smart pair and order my command to my Genie and it recognises my voice and executes the command impeccably( through Google Assistant). 

Well again, mini me, you know how, music is the rhythm of my soul and thus I begin my day with it without fail but the way these wonderful Bluetooth speakers have enhanced my experience is truly phenomenal. Made up of impact-resistant materials, glass filled nylon and corrosion resistant stainless steel, they're engineered to precision and surpass customer expectations. The way they impart my day a perfect beginning withe their volume optimised EQ no matter at what volume I wish to hear a particular song clearly expressed how intelligent my genie #BoseWC35 is. An hour of run in the morn with them is a divine me time experience as I rush back home to pull out hubby and sonny out of their blankets simultaneously checking outside weather and traffic conditions to prepare the two boys better for a smooth day.

Having them on is like having an extra pair of hands when I smoothly answer calls and receive messages too through speech recognition without missing any important ones. While cooking I don’t mind ordering my super genie from Bose, the global technology leader, to apprise me with healthy recipes to sooth the taste buds of me and my foodie family. It also significantly aids me in my work in my Communication Skills Academy by reminding me of critical tasks than need to be undertaken at pre-decided hours.

Icing on the cake if when I take lessons of my kiddo he likes to order the sample papers of Olympiads and other exams on his favorite speaker too any hear the questions there and answer. This makes studying fun as we also discuss how latest inventions have made our life so wonderful. I have secretly spied him requesting the VPA come to his rescue to seek meanings of certain words when he is engrossed reading a book. All he got to do is press and hold the left side button of his headset and speak out his query. This is is easy for my otherwise lethargic boy who would never pick up a dictionary seeking the meaning of the same. On his next birthday, I plan to gift him his own personal #BoseQC35 so that mine is free forever only for me 😛. 

It’s battery life of 20 hours is a staunch support for a person like me who needs driving directions for any new location that I drive to. Wearing it makes driving very safe for me as I don’t have to keep sneaking at the map in my phone. So it makes me shed another clumsy trait of my personality. Adventurous me and my bestie love to hear reviews of new places and eateries etc. on it before trying them out, during our long drives.

Also, did I tell you, it's world-class noise cancelling technology love, that blocks noise and not only lets me loose in my musical world but also ensures all my incoming and outgoing calls are clear even when it is noisy or windy.

Last but not the least I love to flaunt this comfortable and luxuriously designer piece as it is the true symbol of the free spirited bird Truly Yours Roma is and thus she will forever remain indebted to her #BoseQC35 Genie for making all her wishes come true like never before. You will be super amazed to know Alcantara, the soft covering material used in yachts and high end automobiles, it provides a welcome comfort designed for all-day listening. And the plush ear cushions are manufactured from a synthetic protein leather, so it won't even feel like I am wearing headphones.

Beyond all doubt, if at all there had to be to another name of technology, it has to be Bose QC 🎧💖! I wish I had them way back then, when I was you...

Yours Truly 

Roma with her Supergenie BoseQC

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