Kid, You Are My Lifeline Bachha

Continued from 'Some Extraordinary Slices of My Ordinary Life' here : Part1,  2, 3,4, 5, 6, 7, 8 , 9 and 10.

I don't mean any sarcasm when I say, my opinion never matches with the opinion of the world on most of the topics. While the good girl in me tries to appease me in the favour of society, my rebel heart finally makes me dance to a vice versa understanding and leaves me pretty convinced. Like I have always heard parents saying I have sacrificed this, I have sacrificed that for my children, a theory I can never buy for I believe the kind of joy these little ones give to our hearts and how they dip our souls in their innocence and warmth is nothing in front of what we do for them. Secondly, for me a sacrifice isn’t one if you keep bragging or cribbing about it. Period! Better indeed are the couples who have decided to lead a life without having kids. At least their head has a clear understanding of what they want from life.

If you ask me, I love kids, yes, I love them beyond words can express. Kids Sessions in my Academy are the happiest time of the day. No matter how tired or unwell I am, I never cancel their classes because I know they have a magic wand, they will come and I will get all engrossed with these little bundles of joy and forget all the pain. Often when their mom-dads thank me, I tell them these little precious pieces of their hearts, give me much more than I give them, which is  indeed  a fact.

I’m also a proud momma of the kiddo who is the sunshine of my life. A wise and practical little boy, like his dad, he brings logic into my emotional decisions. Parenting him had thus been more than a journey for me and when I say this loads of confessions flood my heart. When you have a momma who is a perfectionist and throughout topper, who still works each day to hone her skills better and better, the little peanut automatically gets under a lot of pressure. When he was really tiny, for me to even make out what his interests were I made him work hard on himself to give him the right kind of foundation one needs. All through my life I have known just one thing - to be nothing short of the best and for that leave no stone unturned in working hard beyond your capacity.

Where I really went wrong is, it is really incorrect and inappropriate to consider your child your silhouette and over expect from the tiny soul. Well, it turned out that the little boy was an exact replica of his genius dad. Hard work is not their cup of tea, they are smart, efficient and selective workers who plan strongly to reduce their hard work to the minimum 😛.

Once I had this realisation, I never really pushed him though I kept apprised him of all that significant skills one can acquire if he has a passion for it. Buddy style of parenting is the best that suits our needs for he has a opinion supported by reason for everything and the only way I can put something in his head is convince him on it! Phew 😅! 

The moment I eased all pressures on him, my tiny bud blossomed beautifully in all spheres of life and I lamented upon what I did with him initially but that’s how you learn I guess. By creating undue pressure on our progeny we turn them defiant which can backfire at wrong times in their lives and the sooner we correct this, the better it is. I know it isn’t easy to be a parent and I can say this especially as a parent of a single child, I try to ensure that the kid doesn’t miss the need of a sibling by actually acting like one for him. It is beautiful to live your childhood yet again with your own child.

Today the situation in my home is we are a set of three best friends ready to debate with logic and reason to prove our point quite unlike how it used to be in my home when I was small and I really value the precious bond of equality where we discuss everything under the sun.

With S traveling a lot owing to his sales job, little A has become my bestie. He is my lifeline in all my endeavours. We have shifted to a new home and he barely has friends here. His new school will reopen in June, so he can actually force me to engage in an activity or play with him whole day, but he encourages me to write as well complete all my assignments before joining him for a swim.

He has been like this for times umpteen. When he was five and I was reluctant to travel to  another city to receive an award  as he had his annual function next morn, he not only made me attend it but also accompanied me on stage for the long media interview and felicitation. He was also a strong force behind my starting my Communication Skills Academy and still works hard for it after school(I evidently give him his pocket money to work for me, early lessons to be on his own you see, sometimes I sound cynical, don't I?).

All said and done,I reiterate, the two men in my life (daddy and baby) and more the little man are my lifelines and make me what I am today. I breathe on their love and support...so this tribute was natural and obvious. Well I say this a million times a day already but can't help my overwhelming emotions at the moment - Love you to the Moon and Back, Precious! Part13

To be continued in the next parts of #SlicesofLife Series on #TrulyYoursRoma in #AtoZChallenge this April.  I am writing on some extraordinary slices from my ordinary life.

Thank you so much for all the love and support you have always given me. Truly Yours Roma is nothing without you!