Wednesday, 6 April 2016

"F"ailed Marriages: Should they be given a Second Chance?

"My heart shattered when I realized my man had someone else in his life..Like every wife I too can smell him and tell the fragrance that was draped around him a little while ago wasn't mine...
His behavioral change has made me sense it a long while back but I kept shunning the idea for as long as possible as the most difficult challenge was to face my fear that my marriage has failed and my one is having an extra marital affair! My soul shivered at the thought and I preferred to live in denial...
After all ours was such a perfect life .. He , me and our little boy and girl... There was always so much of warmth and love in our small world that this was what I feared the least...
How should I say the biggest pain for a woman is to share her husband'a love and when I could not take the agony and despair anymore, I mustered all courage and opened my mouth to him softly and after my little peanuts were off to sleep...
What followed for months each night were unending fights and his perennial non-acceptance of a relationship outside...I was heart-broken and felt betrayed but still loved him as loving him was not a switch on and off button that I can put off...
Despite of all this, he never asked for a separation and I don't know till today whether I was sad or happy about it.. What I knew was that I longed for his love ..Soon, I started loosing health and became really frail..
When I found it difficult to stand on my feet one day, I took my children to my parents home...what followed were a series of tests and I was diagnosed with Cancer. It can be treated but who would want to live in such circumstances...
I was anyways dying a slow death but I feared for my little kids.. Confined to bed I kept gazing at the roof, trying to discover what wrong have I done that my beautiful world has come shattering so badly in front of my eyes...perplexed by atrocities of time and fate, I shut my eyes...that's when I heard a mild whisper in my ears... I knew I recognised this one...it was surely "him" for this is how he has whispered I love you to me a million times... I opened my eyes.. Yes, it was him, with tears in his eyes.. I turned my face to the other side... He gently took my face in both his palms... And reiterated those words with added remorse.. I love you and miss you Anu, Will you please give me a second chance ? "
Was it this easy for Anu?
With broken faith, will she be able to love her husband like before ?
Will she forgive him ?
And most importantly had she done the same , do you think her husband could have forgiven her?
Many amongst us are faced with his challenge today and thus is a true story of my colleague who never forgave her husband from her heart but is still living with him under societal pressure...I often see her in silent tears as the scars on her soul are still fresh...
Please darlings, you are God's most beautiful creations, the decision to give a second chance is absolutely yours and subjective.. Don't let it be forced on you... It's time we put our foot down... Be strong, be independent and be the Face of Change!
You may also like to read the earlier 5 True Tales of Indian Women in this series, some heart wrenching while some inspirational...


Author's Note: This Post is a part of #AtoZChallenge 2016 under my theme #FaceofChange

In the 26 days of this coveted challenge, I am going to precisely talk about the need of Women Rights and Liberation as despite of them, working shoulder to shoulder with man in all walks of life, Crimes against Women and Gender Inequality are the two menaces which are still destroying the foundation of Peaceful Happy Co-existence in our society (in most Asian countries).

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