Friday, 20 April 2018

Soul Satiating Eureka ~ Travel

Continued from the series 'Some Extraordinary Slices of My Ordinary Life' Part1,  2, 3,4, 5, 6, 7, 8 , 9 ,10, 11,12, 13 , 14, 15 , 16 ,17 and 18

I have found a Eureka, a one stop solution to all my problems and woes! Yeah, I just need a quickie of it and all my sulking and withdrawal to my shell, vanishes over just a couple of days. It casts a magical spell on me and all of a sudden my brooding soul finds a new rhythm and is all set to hit back in its full vigour. It’s the only thing I never say no to even if you ask me in my sleep that we are embarking on it next morn at 5😉. Yes, I have realised long ago this eureka for me is travel. I am a born traveller and have known no other hobby other than this ever since God sent me on earth. No, hobby isn’t an appropriate word, travel means much more to me, indeed.

My life divides into two equal halves, one when I am back from a vacation and am all smiles to myself dwelling in the sweet memories of the wonderful time just spent and the second when my next vacation is scheduled and I am busy planning the nitty-gritties of the forthcoming trip♥️. I may sound like a paranoid when I admit I plan my trips to the tee, sometimes to the extent of overdoing it. Right from the outfits, accessories and first aid and medicines kit, I have it all. I feel strongly equipped if I have everything with me in a new land and like to devote all my time only in exploring and rejuvenating. My blogger buddy Shilpa Garg is weaving a wonderful series this month on all the essentials of travel and there are a lot of takeaways from it too.

I love both mountains as well as beaches equally no matter whether they are located within India or abroad. The man made boundaries stand nowhere in front of mother nature’s marvels, I love to capture in my heart and soul and yes also in my lens sometimes if I am not bubbling with energy to take to waters or dip myself profusely in the local culture, depending grossly on my mood. The saying that when in Rome act like Romans suits Truly Yours Roma the most. I like tasting their food, trying their traditional outfits and engaging in long conversations. I have always admitted to having this special love for strangers, the fine imprints of whose wisdom, often remain etched on my memory for a long time.

I admit these vacations are utmost fun thanks to my two partners in crime ~ the two men in my life who love traveling as much as I do. While the elder one adds a pinch of romance to the lovely vacations, the little one adds the bubbling effect with his innocence to make us the awesome threesome always on the wheels...and what do I do, you forgot.. indulge in my favourite pass time - thinking. Sometimes., I feel I think more than a normal human being but I get a lot of wonderful ideas either on a vacation or in restrooms(Phew!). You bet I am normal.

Panorama Courtesy : Little 'A'

(In a beautiful beach resort called Bay15 located on Odxel Beach, Goa, just a few weeks back, I conceived the first thoughts of my next fictional series coming up shortly on Truly Yours Roma. It will be called ADT ~ Aditi’s Delightful Tales ♥️. Now, why did I declare it here? That’s because my head automatically registers I am serious about something only when I announce it to you all😊)

On another serious note, travel is not only the breeze of fresh air in our lives but it on the whole leaves us more enriched, a little wiser and with a deep sinking realisation of how wonderful and precious life is to each one of us. We can spend it cribbing over our pains or keep forgetting the bad and weave all the happier moments as sweet memories to aid us sail through the tougher times. The choice is always ours, what we make out of our lives and can in no way blame others for it. With time sadness will start eluding us for it realises we have no room for it and only wish to be happy and smiling always.

I would like to end this little piece by sharing my plan of going on a world tour with S, my travel goals, you see. I have already handed over my bucket list to him and poor chap is working hard on it. Of course the liberal me has given him the liberty to have it either in one go or in parts. What else can one ask for, I am such a kind hearted spouse😀, aren't I?

To be continued in the next parts of #SlicesofLife Series on #TrulyYoursRoma in #AtoZChallenge this April.  I am writing on some extraordinary slices from my ordinary life.

Thank you so much for all the love and support you have always given me. Truly Yours Roma is nothing without you! 

Thursday, 19 April 2018

Road I have taken : The Principles I Base My Life On...

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Continued from the series 'Some Extraordinary Slices of My Ordinary Life' Part1,  2, 3,4, 5, 6, 7, 8 , 9 ,10, 11,12, 13 , 14, 15 , 16 and 17

I remember being really small, studying in Trichy, when despite of working hard, I didn’t top in my class. When teary eyed me approached mum, she told me to always remember - ‘Karma Kiye jaa, fal ki ichcha Chod de’ Updesh from Bhagwat Gita which for me meant keep working hard without expecting the fruits of your labour. It got etched on my heart pretty early and till today it is the foundation of everything I do. When you don’t expect a reward, whatever little or more you get satiates you and you don’t crib or sulk. Agree? I know it’s difficult to adopt this in life at a later stage but somehow this mantra has always been very close to my heart in everything I do. I am pretty happy not to expect.

Life is never a bed of roses for anyone of us no matter what a rosy picture we paint. We writers are magicians of words who can weave a beautiful garland of our words to decorate our pain in the most beautiful manner possible. But the mighty reality does surface when one is out of the trance of her imaginary world. So why not fall in love with the thorns and not the roses. They are sharp, well shaped as well as aggressive. Yes, thorns are my favourites, they keep pricking me to reality rather than painting a rosy picture. Without my parents and with a younger brother under my toe whom I can’t or should not bother and rather support, I have practically zero support system. Every summer vacations my friends go to their mom’s house but for me the word maayka is a fancy. I have never been to mine in 12 years of my marriage. Hey, but that’s ok because you see I told you thorns are my favourite and I consider life a worthy bed of thorns. Be smart, careful and vigilant with it! This is the second principle after Karma, on which I base my life.

Another anomaly(read principle) of mine is I am blatantly rather ruthlessly straight forward. For me a white is a white and a black is a black, I don’t dwell in greys and hence I am not a people pleaser. I confess I experience a lot of discomfort if I don’t tell the truth to the other person or try to fabricate my answer. Diplomacy makes me venomous and I act weird but the moment I spit out the truth all pain is out of my system and I become a cool and composed mind. I loose a lot of new friends on mine because of this but the old ones, they know me inside out and stay with me in thick and thin. The old ones in fact know it just by the expression on my face that I am concealing my usual self and ask me - Bol De 😊(speak it out, you silly).

For years, I had been a very possessive person. My mom lost my dad to another woman despite of being a wonderful wife and mom and somehow it had stayed with me as my biggest weakness. S understood my mental trauma but at times I made life claustrophobic for him as well as for myself. Some time back I forcibly gave up this habit and have learnt to give space at times to the extent that the other person is left craving for the original me but this is better than he/she getting repelled by the over- possessive me. I have really loosened up and letting the other person enjoy his personal space is the new me. If he has to go, he will go and if he is mine he will be mine forever. Life’s Algorithms are complex, I have given up on unwinding some strands.

Last but not the least, I try to smile as much as I can. The worse I feel, the more I smile. The deeper the pain grows, the wider I spread my lips in a U. Smiling is therapeutic to me God knows why but it indeed is healing. Even when literally in tears, I am automatically trying to smile. This may be true also because I am a firm believer of what you give out to the universe is what you get back. I am a good person and try to be good to everyone in my actions and spirits and hence I mostly get goodness in return. In the process I get used sometimes but it’s ok if it gives the other person momentary pleasure. They think I am a fool which indeed is not true, I am pretty cool so I forgive them 😊.

To be continued in the next parts of #SlicesofLife Series on #TrulyYoursRoma in #AtoZChallenge this April.  I am writing on some extraordinary slices from my ordinary life.

Thank you so much for all the love and support you have always given me. Truly Yours Roma is nothing without you!